How Direct Daygame totally revolutionised my dating life, AGAIN
In the autumn of 2007, I was sitting in my room in University when my good friend Andrew came in, smiling and clutching a book, which he offered to me. Only the night before, I’d been telling him about some problems I’d been having with my then girlfriend of 4 years. “You HAVE to check this out” he said. I looked down at the black leatherbound edition and read the words “The Game” embossed in gold on the cover. I devoured the book in about 48 hours and literally couldn’t contain my enthusiasm. Was this real? Did “pick up artists” really exist? Having just finished a course on biocultural psychology where I learned all about the interaction between evolution, psychology and society, the theory totally clicked and made perfect sense. I searched around on the internet, and, lo and behold, there was an entire community of pick up artists on forums everywhere – it was real!
Being a man. What does it mean? To me, Being a man means many things. It means fighting for what you believe in. It means going for what you want. It means believing in yourself as well as your abilities. It means speaking the truth. IT means being the aggressor. To many of us, “being a man” means different things to different folks. I’m going to write this series of articles to try and cover – what I believe – are universals truths about what “Being a man” should mean to all of us. All of us men, that is. Sorry ladies, this article is just for the boys!
Here’s a great article by the newest member of my team: Ryan!
One of the most common questions I get asked, is how to get out of the dreaded “friendzone” – where you meet a girl you like, get to know her, but then she says something like “I just want to be friends” or “you’re really sweet, but I don’t think of you in that way” when you try to make your move on her. It sucks, but there are ways of getting out of it, and especially, ways of avoiding it to begin with.
(A) Are you in the friendzone because you did sexually escalate, and although you sensed mutual attraction, she had a boyfriend that prevented you from closing? If so, simply stay friends and stay the flirty, fun, confident guy you were when you first met.
I’ve been doing some ponderin’ recently…. I was in the gym the other day, and I was just thinking about how good it feels to be seeing results. I noticed also how whenever I’m really pushing myself at the gym, it motivates me to push myself in other areas of my life. I could be feeling a bit lazy or unmotivated – I’ll go to the gym, and start working out. Once I get into it, I like pushing myself as hard as I can. It’s challenging and makes me feel good. What’s the point of being in the gym if I’m not going to give it my 100% ?
A student recently emailed me saying that he would always get thinking too much, or freeze up whenever he got into a conversation with an attractive girl. My answer prompted me to write this article. Please let me know what you guys think, and any ideas ya’ll might have!
There’s one key element that seems to missing from the lives of most of the guys I meet. It’s an element that’s so fundamental to our very existence – I find it truly amazing it could be missing from anyone’s game – and even more so, out of their lives. That element, my friends – is HAVING FUN!
I was walking down the street just outside Wood Green tube station when this man (who was clearly homeless) started to approach me. I had this really powerful feeling - I knew that he was going to ask for money. He had this desperate look in his eye – I could tell he wanted something just by looking at his eyes, I didn’t need his clothes as a clue. It was clear he was defeated man from his body language. His shoulders were slumped and his face was just giving it all away. He looked hopeless. I knew he’d been turned down 100 times already that day and it made it really easy for me to do the same. He was expecting it. I shook my head no even before he asked me for money and he just sauntered along, off to his next target. He wasn’t persistent at and I didn’t expect he would be.
Have you Ever spoken to a girl… She laughs, or smiles … and then walks away?? What is their PROBLEM?? This used to really frustrate me a LOT – more than frustrate, this used to kill me.
I’d lay in bed at night thinking … WHY?? I know she liked me. What is going on?
Well – it’s taken me a year and a half, and a ton of interactions. But I think I’ve figured it out – for the most part. Here are a few some reasons women may not stop to have a chat. The first few a fairly obvious… the last few I’m going to discuss in detail…
An interesting thing I’ve found is, some girls that clearly like you will not give you their number because it is simply an automatic response to all these losers asking for their number. (Often as an opening line!) A “no” from a girl about getting their number is pretty much an automatically generated response. Yes, sometimes it means they just don’t like you enough to give you their number – but not always.
This article is going to teach you how to approach a girl without fear of rejection or failure. Soon, you’ll have the tools you need to overcome Approach Anxiety forever. You’ll finally be ready to start attracting beautiful women into your life each and every day.
Unfortunately, when most guys get started attracting women, they discover that they first need to cure approach anxiety. They see a beautiful woman and instantly feel a crippling fear that feels nearly impossible to overcome.
For some, this fear becomes too much and their approach anxiety beats them for good. Others will challenge themselves and approach women after women for weeks or months on end,
Everyone is always asking “What’s the best opener?” I know it’s been said before, but I’ll say it again – it doesn’t really matter. If you have a good vibe and you’re smiling anything works. It’s really my overall attitude and fun energy that is getting girls interested in talking to me. That being said, a good opener always helps!
Oh – Keep in mind I very much have my own style for opening. Not all openers suit all types of guys. (Calibration may be required!) Although there’s plenty of ways to open – direct, indirect, non-verbally – my preferred method in the day time is direct/funny or situational/funny or situational/direct/funny. Hah? Situational/funny/direct? What the hell is that? That’s me!
Here’s a great article by the newest member of my team: Ryan!
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