Today was a crazy day. Not only did I move into my new flat in central London – I had a nice interaction with a Grade A Celebrity!
Whilst grocery shopping, for the first time in the area, I picked up a pretty hot black girl. She had an amazing ass… A friend and I were in Waitrose, and he pointed her out. I said “yeah she’s not bad, she’s got a great ass” and he said “tell her” so I came up to her and said “hey… you’ve got a GREAT ass!” and she was like “hey, I work on it!” … then we chatted for a while and she was pretty cool. Great vibe. I told her we’re having a housewarming and that she should come. Just before I left her I said “hey, you better tell me if you’re single so I can let my friends know whether they can hit on you” and she said “let them try” … heh.
After that we’re walking down the street and I see this woman who looks suspiciously like Helena Bonham Carter. I said that to my friend, but he was like “that IS her!!!”
So I approached and I was like “hey, this isn’t a chat up line or anything but… you look just like this actress! … we spoke few minutes. She loved me, of course. She recommended a good cheese shop in the neighborhood and we just had some good banter. I was like “Hey I’m a comic, showbiz baby!” and she’s like “We do try!” … She asked who I was etc and I gave her a flyer for my comedy show. I got some nice pics of us…… but in retrospect I should have gone for her number! She was cool! How random. I got a pic of her, one of us together, and one of her kissing me (my cheek – she’s a married woman!)
Funny how the stuff I do on all woman works just as well on a celeb. Women are women I guess, Eh? She’s only human.
Today was fun – was out teaching. My students were really in good form. They didn’t need me by the end, were just running after ladies. One guy got 4 numbers. After I was done I was walking along with a friend, and just HAD to approach this stunner. I mean, she was hot. Best approach in many days. Lovely girl!
What I wanted to write about was this however.
Two days ago I did some approaches while we were filming, for the sake of it. I didn’t have my contact lenses in so I was squinting and couldn’t really tell if the girls were hot. It feels terrible to be talking to a girl you’re not into. We’re filming, so I’m like “Let’s see how direct I can be with this girl”. And it’s just brutal when you’re not feeling her. It just re-illustrated to me how important it is to be genuine in any approach. If you’re not feeling it, don’t do it.
I know it’s an obvious point, but I just want to really emphasize
DON’T DIRECTLY APPROACH WOMEN YOU DON’T REALLY LIKE!
It’s better to do zero approaches, than a few ones where you feel nothing for the girl – because talking to boring girls I’m not attracted to actually ruins my vibe and whole experience. Ruins it.
I’m not saying don’t talk to anyone! No – be social, be friendly. But don’t go direct on women you don’t really like, it’s like punching yourself in the teeth.
If you don’t really, really want to go and approach a woman – don’t do it. It steals your mojo!
The other day I had a couple of really smooth ass interactions with women. Now – nothing really exciting happened. I strolled up to this woman at a bus stop (I was on my bike) and said “Hey, want a lift?” … she giggles. I tell her she’s hot and I make one other clever remark. She says “You’re fun, let me get your number” … I have her miss call me and she says this weeks crazy but next week we have to hang out. I say cool, give her a kiss on the cheek and I cycle away.
Nothing much happened – but really – everything that needed to happen did. I realized there are really just three ingredients to a successful interaction. They are
1) Opening with an emotional spike
2) Having a fun/positive vibe about you
3) Showing your interest/intent
That’s it, Jack.
You can add other stuff into there, but none of it is absolutely necessary. Like comfort – sure, that may increase the chance you’ll see her again –but you can get away without it. However, without those top three ingredients, you’re just going to have a much smaller chance of success
Ask any experienced dating expert (who’s actually spent time in field) and he’ll tell you the first few seconds of an interaction are the most critical. If you don’t grab her attention, you’re finished. It doesn’t have to even be a compliment. It doesn’t even have to be positive. You can tell her she’s ugly if you like (that’s just not my style). Any emotional spike will do. It is possible to open successful without this – but your chances of hooking the interaction into a conversation are something like 500% higher if you have an emotional spike. I’m not exaggerating here – it’s 5x or more difference I’m talking about here.
Now – having a fun/positive vibe. Nothing sucks them in faster than this. The only situation I’d say you don’t have to have this, is if you’re doing ultra direct game. I’m experimenting with it now, and it has it’s merits. However, my default style is just Mr fun/positive guy. And with most girls, this is probably going to get their interest the fastest. How many girls aren’t interested in getting to know a really positive, interesting, fun person? Few, very few. Now if you’re coming in super direct – how many girls aren’t interested in agreeing to have sex quite fast with someone they don’t know? Shitloads. This brings me to my next point however:
Showing interest. This is the money shot. Listen, you can open great, and have a great fun vibe. But ultimately, if she doesn’t know you’re interested in her – forget about it. Now, I didn’t say intent – as in sexual intent. If you’re doing direct stuff, this is critical yes. But if you’re just having a conversation, being cool and chatting away – you have to show interest in her! For me – I’ve been always showing sexual interest. Always. That’s how I roll. It’s up to you if you’re doing direct/indirect stuff but….. you have to let them know you’re interested in pursuing something.
The interesting thing with this formula is that it can easily be altered for direct, or indirect game
1) Open with emotional spike – Always for both
2) Have a fun/positive vibe – this can be reduced for really direct stuff – but you can still be fun and direct, as I’ve proved over the last couple of years
3) Showing intent – like I said. Indirect: Be interested in her. Direct: Be interested in her, and flirt more. Tell her she’s hot. Or, pull an Alan Roger Currie and tell her you want to bone the shit out of her. Either way, interest must be showed!
This is a simple post which I will possibly expand on soon. I wanted to write this down quick, as I’ve got a girl in the bathroom I’m about to watch a western movie with. Good times!
It occurs to me that I’ve been doing something that may in fact (at this point) be hurting my game.
I’m starting to think that you shouldn’t ask about their boyfriend if you only wanna fuck!
It may just be counter productive. Not because it reminds her she has one, and stops her from taking things forward with you. That too – but I never go for women with boyfriends so … that’s not what I’m talking about. What I mean is – when you ask whether or not they have a boyfriend (Whether it be as simple as “Do you have a boyfriend”) … or my classic “How many boyfriends do you have” question – you’re implying that this is the position you’re going for. This can be bad, especially if you’re just interesting in going to bed with the woman.
First off – lots of women don’t want a boyfriend. Many women (just like us) just want to hookup and have fun. Loads of them. Even the ones that pretend they’re not doing that – they’re doing that. So as soon as you give the impression you may be interested in being their boyfriend – you’re going to put some women off. Period. That’s it. They’re not interested anymore.
Also, it’s a bit needy coming in from the “I wanna be your boyfriend” frame anyways. You don’t even know her, what the fuck are you doing asking if she has a boyfriend? You wanna be her boyfriend after 2 minutes? That’s gay. Gay gay gay.
Also – what about all the grey area situations where she’s seeing someone, or is just sleeping with her ex, or just started dating someone? She may not want to say “I’m banging my ex” so she’ll just say “yea I have one” … then you’re fucked. It just puts you in an awkward position. Some girls also just see it as low value to not have a boyfriend, so they’ll say they have one even when they don’t. But once she tells you that – what are you going to do now? If you try and bone her – you look like a dick. Even if she doesn’t REALLY have one – you look like a dick. You’re just working against yourself even asking the question.
So, if you are approaching a woman you find attractive, and all you know is that you want to sleep with her – you should let her know exactly that. That’s REAL direct game – That’s the point of direct. Let her know you’re interested in her, sexually. BOOM!
That doesn’t mean you have to say “I want fuck you” to every girl you meet – as the opener. You don’t have to say that at all, as indeed it may be too much for some. But you have to make it abundantly clear you’re after sex. SEX SEX SEX.
Not friends.
Not “A boyfriend/girlfriend monogamous relationship”
SEX!
If she’s in a committed relationship she’ll let you know. Even if she is, and you’ve made it REALLY clear what you’re after – there’s a chance you’ll be hearing from here again. Why? Because when she wants to get laid by someone new, you’ll pop into her head. She may know a lot of guys – but how many have actually made it SUPER clear they want to sleep with her? Probably very few.
If she brings up a boyfriend – then you may behave accordingly based your moral system (if any)
A couple of ways I’ve put my intend across recently have been:
“Yeah, after one night with me, you won’t forget me, that’s for sure”
“We should get together and exchange orgasms. It’s win win!”
“I just want to spend some quality nekked time with you.”
“Let me be clear, I don’t wanna be your boyfriend. I just want to get into your pants!”
And of course, the key is NOT to be “entertaining” when you put this shit across. Direct is not the time for jokes. I know – it’s not easy for me either! I’ll still be funny when I’m hitting on a woman overall sometimes – it’s part of my charm. But at the moment where I actually make it really clear I want to sleep with a girl (for the FIRST time) I say it seriously so she knows I’m not mucking about! I want them laughing because of the tension of how direct I am – not because I’m being “entertaining!”
For newer guys who just need to start getting sexual in conversations – go ahead and keep using “How many boyfriends” as it’s good and let’s ‘em know you’re interested. Further on in your development, I’m thinking it’s better not. I’m going to drop it from my conversations and see what happens…
So, as this very moment I’m enjoying a delicious piece of smoked mackeral – with some buckwheat and vegetables. MMM. Now, this Mackeral has some bones in it. I’ve been dealin’ with ‘em as I get through this tasty fish… and I thought “This is a great analogy for getting through ones’ sticking points.”
You can’t eat the fish with all its bones, it doesn’t work. The question isn’t whether you’ll be able to eat the fish. Of course you will eat it eventually – you just have to get all the bones out. But it takes time. Mainly it depends on two things… how many bones there, and how good you are at taking them out. If you’re not very good (or there are a lot) you just have to slow down and pick ‘em out one at a time – or you’ll choke on ‘em.
The same can be said for sticking points. You gotta get ‘em one at a time, you gotta slow down, you gotta enjoy the process of finding ‘em and eating those little bits of fish you get once you clear ‘em.
Pretty good analogy, I think!!! Or, I’m gay. One of those two.
Ok, so 2 nights ago there was a little “drinks” thing at my friend’s house I’m staying with. He only wanted me to invite chicks, so I sent out a few texts. I invited this model girl I’d been texting. She always happily replies but never seems to come out. However, this other girl I’d went on a date with aaaages ago came out with 2 friends. One of them was French and pretty cute. Probably about 24-25 with a good body and quite pretty. And she laughed at all my stupid jokes- which was the most important thing.
Anyways I was standing there chatting to the three girls – and this one guy was kinda hovering. I was actually getting a bit bored and wanted to mingle, so I grabbed him and said “hey, you entertain these girls for a while!” and he did so. I looked over a few minutes later and he’s taking to the french girl… a few minutes after that I got the “dancefloor” (aka living room) started … he drags on there and starts spinning her around and stuff!! Dope!! I found her a bit after that and was like “oh I see how it is: You chat me up, then you’re off dancing with another guy trying to make me jealous… I see how this relationship is going to go!” Anyways I get her into the hallway citing less smoke (there was less smoke… and yes, smoking was allowed at the party – GROSS!”) and after a minute or two chatting I just said “wow this sexual tension is killing me – we should just kiss and get it over with” and just didn’t say anything, or move… she just looked at me. So, I went in and we made out. Ooh she’s a good kisser!
I make a joke about making sweet love to her in my friend’s bedroom but people keep going in and out of there…. During a quiet spell she says “oh, were you doing to show me something in there” … jeez – are all French girls like that? Fantastic!!
Anyways there’s no f’ing lock on the door and it would have been terribly rushed etc so I didn’t really go for the lay… but I took her in there and molested her a bit and made out. Good times!
Shorty after this, her friends gather round us in the hallway and are about to take off. Then, I feel like 2-3 guys hovering around as I say goodbye and kiss her some more. They just kinda stood around hovering as the girls put their coats on… it was obvious they wanted something. They really wanted to do SOMEthing – get their numbers or some shit. But they didn’t – they just stood around, twidding their thumbs. Thing is, I’d have done the same same thing pre game. Jeez. I’ve come a long way!
Nobody at the party got anywhere, except me and my friend – who made out with this one girl who had fantastic breasts.
Anywho – I text the girl, she texts back and wants to meet up next week. The next night (last night) we’re surfing thru the content on my buddies hard drive. He’s got “keys to the vip” and we decide to watch and episode or two for a laugh.
I’m sure you all know what the shows about – 2 guys going head to head with pickup challenges in a club…. And the show is filmed in my hometown of Toronto.
The guys in the show are absolutely terrible. I mean, laughably bad. No, not laughably bad, cringeworthy. I had a pillow over my face like like a girl watching a horror movie! Their game consisted of
Walking up to girls and offering them drinks
Coming up to them and telling them a terrible joke
Going for the phone number straight away (maybe this was bad editing, in that they just CUT to where the guys ask for the number – I can’t be sure)
The list went on and on. MOST GUYS HAVE ZERO GAME. ZERO
I’m just I’ve written this in a post before, but it’s really hit me in the last couple of days.
If you have EVEN A MODICUM of game – you are WAY ahead of the normal guy. I think that’s my point here – you don’t need to go and learn shitloads of stuff. Just get the basics down and you should do fine. Even if you just have the core concepts down: Non-neediness, adding value, not being creepy, and maybe just being a little bit socially calibrated … (and you manage to open) then you can destroy most guys out there. (Of course, the naturals will destroy you, but most guys aren’t naturals, are they?) I wonder what %age of guys actually ARE naturals? Anybody ever wonder that? One in ten? One in twenty? Anyone want to hazard a guess?
The above statement is only valid under the precondition that you don’t have any massive internal belief issues. If you’re a normal guy, and you learn just bit of game, you can destroy a normal guy that doesn’t know about game. But, if you have confidence issues or some other inner game issues (and if you’re in the community, there’s a pretty good chance you do!) then you’ll still have less success than quite a few normal guys (but may still have more success than others)
I still find it difficult to digest how just clueless most guys are. I guess being in the community does that to you. But really – if anyone out there wants a little confidence boost – go and watch “Keys to the VIP” and you will have one. No wonder Cajun got so much PR after being on that show – he had more game than anyone by a huuuge degree.
This was a pointless rant, lol. I feel better tho anyways. Someone messaged me saying I should put up more of my pickups – but I’d put so many of those up in the past, getting some digits don’t me shit anymore so I’m not that excited about it – but I’ll endeavor to stick up some more interactions…
Oh yea – the Hungarian was over a few nights ago… I managed to get her clit in my mouth for a few seconds, but she kept stopping me. She was saying stuff like “hey, it’s so different that you still called me after I told you we’re never going to have sex” … haha. There’s actually a couple of things I can do here: But I think I’ll stick with just being her friend and letting her come to me for sex when she decides it’s what she wants. That feels the best. Then again, I may try and get her really horny and sleep with her. We’ll see…
I can just have her as a female friend I semi-molest. Haha. That’s fine.
That, or I’ll get my dick out next time we’re fooling around. Definitely one of those two…
I just saw this movie called “The wild one” with Marlon Brando.
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0047677/
Holy shit. First of all, I’m not gay or anything but… Marlon Brando is HOT!!
Ok, just had to get that out of way. Next point. THIS MOTHERFUCKER IS SO ALPHA IT’S UNBELIEVABLE.
You can learn more about game by watching this guy walk around than be reading any e-book. This guy is sick!!!
The way he walks. The way he talks. He just oozes confidence. He just oozes sex. MARLON BRANDO IS SEX.
One scene, he’s just standing there as it’s all kicking off. Even thought he’s the leader – he’s just totally chilled letting people yell and make a ruckus. Then he walks over there as cool as fuck – and says what’s he’s got to say. And that’s it. He doesn’t have to yell to put across a point. Why would he? He’s the man and he’s totally comfortable with himself in ever way.
His frame is 100% Unbreakable!
He never gets his panties in a knot. He’s just the shit and nothing phases him. LOOK AT HIS BODY LANGUAGE! JESUS. It’s perfect. PERFECT.
Look how calm he walks around. Holy shit.
The scene where he takes the girl on the bike, grabs her, kisses her, and then immediately tells her he doesn’t want anything to do with her. HOLY PUSH-PULL batman! Amazing.
This movie should be standard viewing for ALL MEN!
SICK! FUCKING WATCH THIS MOVIE OVER AND OVER TIL YOU BECOME HIM.
p.s – Nothing actually happens in the movie people just run around in circles – it’s pretty pointless. I watched it with a girl and we were taking the piss the whole movie. But even the girl was like “Jesus he’s so fuckin alpha.” She actually said “He’s an asshole but I’d fuck him and his gang to get to him.”
Ok, He’s Marlon Brando. Fair enough. But still… it’s not just his looks! It’s everything!
She make a little horny groan sound for the first half of the movie every time a scene came on with Brando in the shot. I started doing it too – haha.
I’m In the west end teaching – I open this cute Indian looking with who’s got a killer body! Like omg!! Small – with perky tittes, skinny legs, awesome butt… Wuh!
We talk max 5 mins. She’s just in town for 2 weeks….
She drops me a hint that’s clear as day.
I say “so… what are you up to?”
She says “Oh well, I’m seeing friends tomorrow but… I’m not really doing anything tonight”
Sasha “Ah, well – how about we get some coffee later?”
We swap numbers and I get back to it….
Then we run into her an hour later as we’re eating. I say “let’s meet at that coffee shop there at 8!” and she says cool.
She shows up at 8.05 … she joins me and we get to talking.
Regular stuff. I can see that she’s pretty open and so I get into the filthy pretty quick. I didn’t even have to use the pretext of the questions game
Sasha “So, when’s the last time you got laid?”
Silence.
Sasha “Omg – it was like last night wasn’t it??”
Hbindian “It was 2 nights ago, actually”
Sasha “Anybody you know?
Hb “Nah, just some guy I met”
(I can see she’s a bit uncomfortable admitting this)
I know what time it is!
Sasha “Hey that’ s cool. I like girls that are sexually open. You know… it’s fucked up how our society treats women…. Blah blah blah… women should be free, just as men, to do whatever they want with whoever they want, blah blah blah (Standard Johnny soporno fluff for like 2 or 3 minutes)
HB “Yeah – I totally agree. It’s bullshit”
Sasha “So, let’s head back to my place!”
HB “no, I don’t think so”
Sasha “oh? Why not?”
HB “I’m just not feeling it….”
Sasha “But… I do tantric! You’re crazy – depriving yourself of pleasure… are you in a cult or something?!”
Blah blah I qualify myself and tell her I’m awesome and shit… we make small talk for 5 mins
HB “I just don’t think you’d be good in bed”
Sasha “Why not?”
HB “You talk about it too much”
Sasha “haha… yea maybe I suck. Or… maybe I’m really good and you’re making a terrible mistake… so listen, let me rub your neck so you can see I’ve got magic fingers….”
HB “No, not in public….Ok, let’s go back to your place and you can massage me there. If I like it, then we can have sex!”
Sasha “Let’s go”
That’s pretty much how it went down. We left the coffee place around 9….
On the way back to mine she revealed that she’s been on a sex rampage – just fucking loads of guys! She was married for like a year at 25 – divorced and now she’s banging everybody! We spoke SO candidly about sex it was cool as fuck. She was 100% ok telling me anything I wanted to do – and I’ll I’d done was establish that I was cool with it.
Get back to mine: Have a cup of tea…. Start on her shoulders with some massage action… … kiss her neck… I say “let’s take this party to my room!” and that’s that.
I gave her a proper back rub… got her really hot… then kissing her back….. then flip her her over… sucked/licked her tittes + stomach and then fingered her to orgasm. Only then proceeded to have sex. It was alright…. I got to a point where I was like all the way in here, and it was kinda numb. You know how if you don’t come up too much, you can fuck and it’s mainly numb so you’re not going to come? That point. It seemed like she was going to come to I just stayed in there hoping she would get off… she was moving around a bit too much – and I realized she was going to make me orgasm. It was either pull out for a moment or go the distance. I thought “fuck it, I’m going to come with her” … so I pound her and blow a load. She almost has another orgasm, but not quite.
She was happy though so there ya go. Then, I made her massage me. Her elbow in my back was probably the best part (I have serious knots – and massages are harder to come by than sex! lol
Some things she said during sex
As we came into my room she noticed I didn’t have a duvet and she commented on it … something like “bachelor style!” … I said “what does it mean If I had a cover?” and she says “girlfriend!”
Also “Once this n**ger pulled out a ten inch and I was scared”
And “One guy tried to come on my face out of nowhere. You gotta ask first”
There’s some other funny stuff but I can’t remember it all.
She told me she hasn’t had an orgasm in a while. We talk about why that is and *shock horror* most guys aren’t very good at making women come! Also revealed: Rich guys are particularly boring.
End of the day – it seems no game was required but … really all I had to do was
1) open
2) spot the invitation “I’m not doing anything tonight”
3) make arrangement to meet up
4) explain that I’m open about sex and don’t judge girls who are
5) invite her to mine
6) (chat a bit more) invite her again
Piece of piss!
Best part – I sent her off to one tube station and I start walking down the street. Literally 15 seconds I’m walking and there’s 2 girls having fun on a bench. I open by dancing around as I walk past them. I talk to them for about a minute or two…. I just grab and kiss the first one… the second one says “I want some of that!” … I say “3 way make out!” and then we all tongue down. I say “Hey I just had sex… but if I hadn’t would you guys be down for a 3some?” and they are like “yea totally….” We swap numbers with them claiming they’re up for it. I accuse them of only saying that cuz they’re drunk – they say “Nooooo we’re up for it!”
They text me “we are so up for a gang bang” 5 mins later
I texted them somethin’… they sent “You bring the guys, we’ll bring the girls! xx”
I shouldn’t have blown my load in the Indian girl. That would have been my personal sickest day every (Instant lay, instant 3some!)
Ah well. There’s always next time!
Note: She wouldn’t want to be seen getting her shoulders massaged in public – but she’ll fuck my brains out after 1hr chat. Maybe the girls that are the most sexually liberated act the most conservative – simply because they’re aware of their actual tendencies and are trying to cover up their true nature! That happens more and more… I’ll go for a kiss (not here!) then as soon as you get ‘em private they’re like “lemme see your cock!”
p.p.s – Ejaculation is for gays. I’m going to start some kind of non-ejaculation challenge. Seriously.
Met up today with a girl I picked up like 1.5 years ago. She was this super cute Asian I met in Hoxton. Skinny and hot as fuck. A 9 to me. Anyways, I went on a date with her back then but I was just … overwhelmed by how hot she was. I made chit chat and it went ok – but honestly I wasn’t comfortable around her so I didn’t escalate or make a move or anything…. And that was that. However, I started chatting with her on facebook recently just winding her up and stuff. After some of that I called her around 10 days ago and we had a good talk for around 20 minutes. I took the piss out of her TONS and did my funny British accent etc. I ended the call and we said we’d meet up the next day, but she flaked as she had to work. I was cool about the whole thing and left it… then gave her a call 2 days ago for a quick chat. Again it was fun and she suggested I come out to one of her friend’s birthdays today. I went to another party in Sussex first with my homeboy Keychain – and then went to meet this girl up.
So I let to the bar in old st and she spots me and gives me a warm welcome. Big hug and she introduces me to everyone. I say hi to them and smile etc. Oh, she tries to get me to buy her a drink like RIGHT away. I’m like “are you gonna give me a blowjob? After that, sure I’ll buy you a drink!” So, I chat to her for a little bit. At one point I stole the chair and she kinda walked up to sit, but there was only the side bit of the chair to sit on. I started to say “you can sit on my lap, but it will cost you a tenner” but she was kinda drunk and interrupted me at “you can sit on my lap” saying “I don’t want to!” so she didn’t hear the tenner part. Suddenly my cocky line became a needy line. I felt the energy drop – and her attention wane. She didn’t even want to hear the story I’d just started telling her – so I immediately engaged her friend in conversation.
So, from now on I will deliver stuff like that with the cheeky part at the start. At least when it comes to drunk girls. So … I’d say “for a tenner, you can sit on my lap!” … this is much safer.
Anyways, I proceeded to chill and get to know her friends. They were actually pretty cool so it wasn’t hard. All cartoonists/artists. One guy had his own cartoon and had been busting his ass for 3 years… he showed me his stuff and it was great. So, I told him he was awesome and just gave him some business tips (told him to read 4 hour work week and stuff) etc …. And spoke to the other 2 guys. There was the birthday girl (who was twatted!) and the GF of the artist… just never really got a chance to talk to them as I was enjoying my chat with the guys. Anyways…. She was talking to this other artsy guy (he was there as the love interest of the birthday girl … so it was all good) and I just went on chatting with her friends. Occasionally I’d do some crazy/fun shit like grab her and lick her face, or bite her face. Or just slap her. Whatever I felt like. Then I’d go back to talking to her friends. It worked like a charm. I don’t really do gamey shit but sometimes the push/pull stuff really, really works. It was a combination of that and just not really giving a fuck and chilling out. I know she’s into me, so I just let her come to me.
As long as you know she’s into you – even a little – you can just relax and let her come to you. Have fun with her friends, people at the bar – just relax. It’s ok if she’s talking to her friends and other guys and whatever. It’s all good. Just chilllllllllllllll. I know it can be hard. If there was some guy there was doing a little too well or whatever, I’d have run up to her, lifted her up into the air and carried her off and then maybe escalated to blow the guy out. Sure…. But it’s not necessary most of the time. That’s all I’m saying.
Anywho: At the end we all go as some people want food. Then she tries to get me to buy her a pizza. I’m like “uhhh, are you good in bed? If you are, I’ll buy cook for you!” … she said “But me a pizza and I’ll fuck you, I’m cheap!” …. (not classy!)
It was obvious she wanting to fuck. She was just giving it away. Sentences like
“I’m going to pick just 2 lovers for 2010. Maybe you’ll be one of them…”
To the guy she was chatting with (about me) he’s quite good looking, isn’t he?”
Just other stuff like that
“My friends all love you! They’re all like “your friend is awesome! And I was saying “I don’t even know this guy!”
Oh – also right after our chat from 2 days ago she kept texting she’s poor and hungry and I said “come over for dinner” and she said “you’re just going to try and fuck me if I come over” … dead give away. I replied “You’d be so lucky – I’m a tantric master!”
There’s tiny little moments when you can fuck yourself – and part of game is just avoiding those moments. Like one of her guy friends, as I’m walking arm in arm with her says “she’s mine!” and grabs her away. Now, there’s nothing I can do here… if I react or get needy or whatever I’m a douche. He’s known her for ages. So again – I totally just smile and don’t react. I said something along the lines of “you can have her, she’s nuts!” … and within 10 seconds she was arm in arm with me again. But – you can easily blow yourself out if you get needy in a spot like this. Which, a couple years ago I would have.
Anyways: The key her is that I won her friends over. I just have total social proof. That’s it. I was just chilled – didn’t fight for her attention. Just had fun little interactions and was cool with everyone and that’s it. It’s a done deal I think.
And this is really one of the hottest girls I’ve met while in the game. Well… if you like oriental girls you’d shit yourself. Just so my type hot and skinny as fuck! I just wanna lick her all over.
I’m quite certain I could get her round tomorrow but I have 2 other dates already. If I don’t hookup with one of them, I’ll still try get her over.
The point is this: Be normal, be social – let her come to you. All you have to do is – not fuck it up!
