Alright kids, I just got back to Los Angeles from teaching in Portland, and Denver….. I’m a little tired already and I’m just STARTING my world tour!
Finally have a chance to catch my breath!
I’ve been getting lots of comments from people DEMANDING more videos. You guys sure are pushy, for a bunch of non spenders
Right: So, just a quick post to let ya’ll know about my latest video: Direct Chronicles 4!!!
I’d filmed this ages ago…but at last, it’s out there!
It’s all about being in the moment – which is one of the most important factors when it comes to having sexy time with the ladies.
Nothing is less attractive than a guy who’s “not really there!”
Have you ever been talking to a woman, and you got the impression she wasn’t really paying attention? Sucks, doesn’t it? Well – how do you think THEY feel when YOU are thinking about something else?
I was actually chronically bad at this. I’d be worried about stupid stuff ALL THE TIME instead of focusing on the ONE important thing – telling the beautiful woman in front of me exactly what I’m thinking!
Hopefully this video will shed a bit of light on that!
I’m actually backlogged on content… I’ll start pumpin’ it out so get ready for information overload!!!
Hey! I did a bonus stand up comedy presentation @ this year’s 21 Convention in London. They’ve just put it up online ….
So, if you’d like to see some of my stand up comedy, check out this video!
If any of you had forgotten… that’s kinda my main thing. Now… guess it’s kinda 50/50
I’m sure ya’ll will enjoy it. If so, I welcome you to add my comedy character on your facebook’s, I may be doing comedy in a town near you soon ….
I’m going to Denver, Colorodo on Tuesday to teach a couple of guys, and then back to L.A to develop my first ever product!! yaaay!! If anyone knows anyone cool in Denver, let ‘em know I’m coming! I don’t know anyone there except the students!
HEyyy!! Alright, looks my I can blog on my new site. YAY!
So, I’ve got a backlog of interviews I did with some cool ass folks at the PUA summit. So, check out this interview with John Keegan. We hung out a lot during the summit. He’s a fucking really cool dude. We have very similar approaches. Just watch the damned video, you can find his site on http://www.theawakenedlifestyle.com/
Hey guys, welcome to my new website. I know some of my recent blog posts aren’t there, that’s because of tech stuff and when the backup for the site was made. Those will be added in over the next few days, so don’t worry.
Also, for any new people trying to download the “medkit” … your names will be added to my mailing list soon, so just relax. It was a MAJOR operation moving things over!
This message will self destruct once everything is back to normal. Hope you all enjoy the new site
Alright, so this little article i’m writing because my understanding of human relations has deepened over the course of the last couple of weeks. I’ve spend some time with a fellow called Jason who’s developed his own type of system of… unfenced relationships. I was going to say “polyamoury” but, that’s not quite the right word for what i’m about to describe here. Some of the PUA’s out there know Jason already. He’s been around a while. Not sure he even has a PU name… so I’ll just call him MLTR Jason!
For those of you that have been following my wee blog for a while, know that about 2 years ago I spend some time with a fellow called Johnny Soporno. He’s a great guy, and taught me a whole shitload about polyamoury/open relationships, etc. If you don’t know Johnny, google him and watch his vids. They are quality.
Anyways -though I have made some progress on my own in pursuit of multiple open relationships since my education with Mr. Soporno, I always had a couple of sticking points. I was still kind of jealous, and also I couldn’t get around the whole “what if you love a chick” type o deal. Johnny said his girls needed to have other lovers, which sort of assumed the man (I.E me) would have other lovers. Finally, after my conversations with Jason my fundamental gap of understanding has been filled. Also, I realize that my final sticking point at this period of my development is, I still see women as property – just like everyone else does in the “normal” system.
So, instead of explaining what was missing, let me explain the system which Jason has explained to me. After you, my dear reader, have a firm grasp on the concepts he has imparted on me, you will quickly understand what I have now (seemingly) made peace with. Here goes:
Essentially, all relationships are either fenced or unfenced. Fenced means there’s a fence. I.E – You cannot see/date/sleep with other people. Period. Unfenced means, you can see/date/sleep with other people. So, you can be dating an unlimited number of people who are all in an unfenced relationshop with you – some of whom could (in theory) but in fenced relationships with others. But, then, they’d be cheating. Jason’s view in this situation is that this would be they’re problem and has nothing to do with him – he only does unfenced relationships, and is therfore is not keeping any women away from anybody. If a woman enters a fenced relationship, that is her choice – not his.
So – my big problem was this: What if I really love a girl. I don’t want her having sex with other guys! Shit, I don’t even want to have other women when i’m crazy about a girl. When I was with the Greek, I really had no desire to sleep with other girls. I was completely satisfied in that area. So my confusion was kind of multi fascetted. See, johnny said one of his rules was that all of his girlfriends had to be seeing at least one other lover. Well, what if they didn’t want another lover? Surely by insisting they have another that would be implying that I, myself, would also have to other lovers. But – what if (for a given period) I really didn’t want one. And if the girl didn’t? Should I force her to go out there and find other male companionship?
See, I felt myself falling into a kind of boyfriend/girlfirend zone with the greek, which was confusing me because I was trying to have a type of open/polyamours thing happening. But, that’s not what I was feeling. I was feeling – love. I love the Greek. I loved her then, and I still love her now. I found it difficult to love her, yet be a “pua” and be “polyamourous” and see other girls. It’s like I was forcing myself to see other girls just because I “should.” What the fuck is that? I “should” do whatever it is that makes me happy. That’s the only thing any of us should do. And what made me happy? Being with the Greek. She made me happy.
So- here’s what i’m leading up to: Jason explained to me that – just because you’re in an unfenced relationship doesn’t mean you have to exercise the option of sleeping with other women. That’s all it is – an option. You can be in an unfenced relationship with a woman, and be sleeeping only with her if that’s what you want to do. It’s just, you’re doing so without a fence. The option is there if you want to exercise it.
When he told me that part, I was like “Ahhhhh……”
It’s like I was…. my eyes just opened. It made sense. What the fuck was I thinking??? it seems really obvious now…but that never actually occurred to me. To me, polyamoury meant, necessarily dating multiple women at the dame time, (ha, that was a genuine spelling mistake, but i’m keeping it in there!) at all times. Well, with sex 3.0 – you don’t have to!
Alright, so … i’m going to try and share the core principles of sex 3.0 as best as I can remember them from my conversations with Jason.
So, the critical thing with “fenced” or “unfenced” is that you have to pick one or the other in the beginning of every relationship. Once you’ve picked, you can’t mix and match. At all. Ever. That is the key. Now, Jason isn’t saying that “unfenced” is necessarily better than fenced, or that there’s anything wrong with fenced. He’s happy to let people have fenced relationships. The point he’s making is that mixing the two is going to lead to the destruction of your relationship.
Next point: (and this is something that he explains to women, very clearly) is that all fenced relationships essentially follow the same 5 step pattern. It goes loosely like this:
Boy meets Girlfriend
Girl and boy realize they have a cool connection
boy and girl spend lots of time together and become infatuated with each other (this is called the “honeymoon period”
jealousy or possessiveness rears it’s ugly head
boy and girl break up, and never talk to each other again. Cool connection is lost
So, if you think about, pretty much the vast majority of standard “couples” (I.e – fenced relationships) this is exactly the pattern they follow. Whether it be, girl is jealous of guy doing whatever/talking to other girls – or the guy “cheats” (yes, you may take notice my implied allignment by my clever use of quotation marks) … or the girl flirts/talks to other guys, guy becomes jealous/controlling/possesive (sometimes resulting in violence – or worse) and the girl runs away from the guy.
As far as I can tell (and please, dear readers, correct me (and Jason) if we’re wrong – but this is the pattern that seems to flow for virtually all fenced relationships. Obviously, there are exceptions. There are some couples who’ve been together for like 50 years. But, those are the exception, not the rule. As Jason explained to me – it’s maddness to use those rare examples as a yardstick by which to measure our own “success.” Much of this type of measuring falls into the concept of “relationship duress” which Is another fascinating sex 3.0 concept I may or may not get into later.
So – recognizing that all relationships do, in fact, follow this 5 step sequence – we can assume that once enlightened by our new understanding of this fatal (yet commonly practised) protocol, the objects of our desire (that’s right – the HB’s!) would want to avoid this destructive pattern at all costs. So, you can see the importance of showing clearly to our beloved prospects the dangers of this 5 step descent into hell. (ok, I Jason didn’t refer to it as that. That’s my own creative use of language).
Alright I don’t want to give away his whole system before he writes his book. So just a couple of concepts:
“relationship duress” – these are the pressure people put on you that stem from “the system”
So, say you’re around 30 (which I am) … people say to you “hey, it’s it about time you settled down and has some kids?”
Why would people even say that? That’s a retarded thing to say to anybody. They’re saying it because part of the societal programming (at least, in the west” says by the time you’re 30, you are supposed to get married and have kids. That’s normal. In fact, i’ve met 16 year old girls who have told me that’s their plan. Get married when they are 30. What the fuck does a 16 year old kid know about what he/she is going to want to do when they are TWICE their current age? It makes no sense. It makes even less sense for there to be any such kind of rules to dictate to us how we should live our lives. All people are individuals. We’re all different an want and need different things. So it’s really quite absured someone you’ve never met/don’t really know would tell you it’s about “time” you “settled down” …. WTF ???
Another example would be, after you get married: people saying to you “you should’t do XYW – you’re a married man!”
Example for women – say a woman doesn’t have a boyfriend, her friends telling her “hey, you shouldn’t sleep around. You don’t want people to think you’re easy! You should get yourself a boyfriend” etc etc.
Basically anytime anyone tells you you “should” do anything (that doesn’t really know you) it’s coming from the brainwashing they got from “society” and it’s therefore relationship duress.
Jason also has some awesome shit about sex 1.0, 2.0 (“normal relationships”) and Sex 3.0 (unfenced relationships) …. and about how unfenced relationships are actually in line with nature, while fenced relationships are alligned with “normal” … but i’m not typing any more!
If enough of you guys are excited about this, I’ll stop being lazy and upload the audio of my convo with Jason…. Depends on how many comments there are
I’m pretty sure this is the best thing since sliced chicken…but as Chinese wiseman say – We’ll see!
Oh yeah – you can find Jason’s fan page on facebook here ! … The more of you become fans, the sooner he’ll be motivated to write the book. I’m really looking forward to it myself!!
Super AA guy did his first ever direct approach, and got the number! Boooom!
His one month goal was to be able to come up to a woman and say she has a sexy ass… well it’s been just over a week, and he managed to approach a girl, tell her she’s cute and get her number… so I think next session we’ll hit his month goal! SICK!
I filmed him (using his own iPhone) straight after… video says it all really. It was a good day! If he can do it, ANY OF YOU CAN. Believe me. He was shitting himself. Haha.
Anybody want to gamble on how long till he gets laid? I’m going to go: 2 to 3 weeks ish…….
For information on Super AA guys PUA journey (which is epic) you can find his blog here.
I’m teaching this guy now with Super Approach Anxiety.
What’s funny is… he’s like a really nice/cool/funny guy, who’s good looking and has it pretty much together. But massive amounts of approach anxiety! Even asking another man for directions is too much. When I tried to get him to do some of the social pressure games, he almost had a heart attack! Session 2, he spend about 45 minutes shitting himself. Literally.
Me and Marcus have about a 95% cure rate for approach anxiety… the shit we’ve come up with is pretty fucking amazing… and yet here and there, we find someone we can’t cure. Over the years we’ve gotten to a point of almost completely being able to wipe out approach anxiety in almost all cases.
Almost.
Anywho, we’re always planning and scheming how to cure the hard cases… I’m actually looking forward to curing this motherfucker.
Anyways, I told him to start a blog to chronicle his journey. I thought some of you, my legions and legions of loyal readers (yes, BOTH of you) could check out his blog, maybe give him a bit of encouragement? He’s actually a pretty good writer, I enjoyed reading it! He’s just done his 3rd post… but it all starts off with post number one here.
Who knows, maybe he’ll be the next Sasha?
So have a look, and leave the guy a kind word or two. His name is David and the blog is here.
Went to Yoga. It was nice. After that me and my buddy (animal guy) were walking down the street and this little hottie all dressed in black was just crossing the street. I was like “Excuse me…..” and right away I know it’s on. That fucking quick. She’s just all smiley and shit. I did the usual, said she was hot and just had a bit of a chit chat. She said she was just out for a walk, not doing anything in particular! My god she was asking for it. I have to go home and WORK on the DDS launch for fuck’s sake. ARGHHHH… But still, I get her on an instant date! Had coffee.. This girl was kinda shy… To get her to talk…. I had to use – that’s right – the question game, baby! I’ve said it before, but once again – it works every time. The ONLY gamey thing I do.
Pretty soon, I know everything about her I need to know. Everything. If I see her again, it’s overrrrrrrrrrr. O-V-E-R. I think
This girl – check this – she’s only been “chatted up” twice in the last YEAR. And that’s including me. WTF!? And I’m not kidding, she’s really cute. Weird.
Anywho: Off to the gym. Coming back, it’s pretty late. I’m just about at my house… and guess what?? Yes. Smoking hot Oriental girl walking down the street. Now, there’s no one else around. It’s late. I’m on a bike. I know the %chance of success is much lower than normal. In my mind, I accept this, turn around and open.
I pull up next to her – Big smile. “Hey! I know this is a bit random… I was just coming home from the gym (I point to my shorts) and I live right over there… and I saw you as I cycled past you and I thought “this girl is just waaaaay too cute not to talk to. So… hi!”
She beams with a massive smile.
As per my usual, I just can’t be fucked to waste any time. I say to her “You’re too cute to be single. You must have a boyfriend right?”
She says “Nope, I don’t have one!”
Note: Many “PUA” types would say I’m crazy for even asking them. To a degree they are right, and you will get more pussy not asking. Me: fuck it. I don’t bang chicks with BF’s, and I don’t want to invest time and find out there’s a BF later, so I just find out immediately. Furthermore, it’s very complimentary to just assume girls have one. Right? so that’s how I roll.
Anywho after this is was just a bit of comfort (She’s from Thailand, been here a year, studying English, lives around the corner from me.) Bit of flirting. I ask her if she wants to come up for some tea, but she has to study for an exam tomorrow. I have her call my phone and she agrees to meet up soon. I give her a big hug.
She was so fucking hot. Oh – she was my age! Though she looked 19. Seriously. Unreal.
UNREAL!!!
Fuck man. I had ZERO INTENTION of meeting any women today. ZERO. I don’t actually have time for dates this month with the Direct Dating Summit DVD launch coming up!
Good bye Cajun! That’s right. My ooooooooooo’l buddy Cajun was staying over with me for the last 5 days. For those of you who aren’t aware, my fated meeting with Cajun on a bus in 2006 dramatically changed my life forever. We dicked around a bit, have some interesting chats about the nature of the universe and stuff. He’s a thinker you know. Sure, he looks like a pothead. But he’s a thinker. We did take a couple of funny pics. Shit, I just realized I never put up the freaking images of the LAST time he came round in November!!! FUCK!! I’m lazy, but if you gus harass me to put shit up, I’ll do it hehe
ALright here’s the pics (from this trip)
Gangsters:
Gheyness:
Cajun felt shit so didn’t make it to my comedy last night, which sucked.
We met up with my ol’ pal Keychain as well, got some food and then went back and chilled at Keychain’s house for a bit. I’d never hung out with both of them at once before, it was cool! They are both really awesome dudes! I won’t see Cajun for a while now, but his crazy spirit is always with me. In a heterosexual way.
You know what’s funny: All of game can be eliminated entirely, and you can have plenty of success too… And all you have to do is be completely honest. With yourself. With women. Completely honest. If you’re talking to a woman and you only just want to fuck her, tell her that. If you think she’s cool and you’d like to get to know her – tell her that! Nothing can ever go wrong if you just tell people what you want. They’ll either reciprocate or they won’t. The whole seduction industry is based around not being honest. Hiding your intentions so maybe increase your chances of getting laid. What the fuck? Even if in some cases it DID increase your chances of getting laid – why do it anyways? You’re going to lie just to have a slightly better shot at getting pussy? So even if you get the pussy: a) You’re a liar and b) You’re going to lose the pussy anyways when she finds out you’re a liar.
What’s the point? The irony is, you’ll get way more action just being up front anyways, and it will save you tons of frustration. When will they see? I just keep having these kind of thoughts, compulsively, because I’m watching this footage. I really want to get the Direct Dating Summit out to the world. I think it’s gonna fuck some shit up!
